It starts in the mind…

It starts in the mind…

At the start of every New Year a lot of people start the year by setting New Year resolutions/goals.

But research has suggested that around 80% of resolutions fail by the second week of February. Most shockingly a study conducted by Strava (the social network for athletes) identified the second friday in January as “quitters day” suggesting that this was the day where motivation began to diminish.

Psychologists believe that one of the biggest contributors to this is the “internal battle between doing what you want to do and what you should do.” In other words it starts in the mind. Our minds are one of the most powerful tools we have as individuals and I believe how we control it can determine the course of our lives.

Why is our mind such a powerful asset?

Because ultimately how we think dictates our behaviours. I believe that the reason why 80% of resolutions fail is because people have not trained their minds and their thought processes. And because of this they allow a lack of confidence, otherwise known as self-doubt, to prevail in their mind.

If I constantly tell myself I am not capable of doing something, I most likely will not be capable because I no longer have the motivation or right attitude to do it. As Napoleon Hill said, “Our only limitations are those we set up in our own minds.”

It starts in the mind.

Once we really understand how powerful our mind and consequently our thoughts are, then we will have the foundation and in due course the capability to reach whatever goal or resolution we have set ourselves. But it isn’t just enough to have confidence, you have to really apply yourself to whatever you want to achieve. And I mean really apply yourself.

When I first started my fitness journey I absolutely hated running and I would tell myself I couldn’t do it before I had even tried, but once I changed my thoughts, the change in my behaviour followed and before I knew it, I loved running.

Only we as individuals have the power to change our thoughts, feelings and attitudes. But how can we do this? I think the answer is in self-awareness. When we truly understand ourselves we can then work to proactively manage our thoughts, emotions and behaviours.

So lets hit the ground running. Whether it takes you 6 weeks or 6 months, lets be the 20% of people that do achieve their yearly goals/resolutions.

2018 is the year of confidence and self belief. Its time to stop being your own worst enemy. Lets be more than just average because as we all know it starts in the mind.

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What type of year has 2017 been for you?

What type of year has 2017 been for you?

At the beginning of September my friend and I were talking and she said that 2017 had been a great year for us. And even though I agreed I did not really feel that way. That conversation led me to really consider and ponder on what “a great year” actually meant to me.

During this reflection I realised that the reason I felt that 2017 had not been a great year for me was because I was focusing and dwelling on the negative. I was focusing on the challenges I had faced and the goals I had not yet met. I was blinded by negativity.

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Are you the best version of yourself?

Are you the best version of yourself?

Are you the best version of yourself?

A tough question, I know. Before I could answer it myself, I had to really consider what it meant to me.  So I am going to rephrase the question for you. “Are you allowing yourself to live up to your full potential, both in the personal (e.g. mentally, physically, spiritually and so on) and professional sense (e.g. career, entrepreneurial and so on)?”

If I had answered this question a couple of months ago, it would have been with a big fat no. Being victim to laziness, procrastination and doubt meant that I wasn’t allowing myself to flourish and I’m probably not the only one.

As I pondered on it, I realised that I could be doing much more. I was not going above and beyond in all that I did, in fact I was doing the bare minimum. I was not able to confidently say that I was putting 110% effort in to my personal and professional life. I was too comfortable and that to me, was a problem.

Now of course the idea of “being the best me” will vary considerably amongst each individual, but as you’re reading this today I challenge you to consider what does that mean to you?

There are many ways to be the best version of yourself but I believe in a 3 step cycle.

1. Firstly learn about yourself; identify your skills, passions and interests, your strengths, your weaknesses, what you like and what you don’t like, how you interact well with others, and how you fail to communicate well with others, how you work – the idea is to really just know yourself

How can you be the best version of yourself if you do not fully understand and know yourself well? Once you are able to understand yourself you can gain a better understanding and sense of direction. Identify your skills, your passions and your interests and then try to use this to discover your purpose.

2. Secondly develop an uncanny confidence in yourself and use this to take action

Once you know yourself and you know what direction/path you want to take in life, it will be much easier to believe in yourself and your abilities. I genuinely believe that we can do whatever we set our minds too. All it takes is self-confidence. If you do not have confidence you will struggle to take action.

Take action. Make a plan. Then execute this plan.           

3. Finally keep growing – learn from your mistakes and your “failures,” increase your knowledge capital, grow your network and just keep shinning 🙂 

So you know yourself, you’ve got confidence and you’ve taken action. What next……?

Continuous learning – Upgrading your skills and increasing your knowledge

Every experience is an opportunity to learn. But you have to go beyond this. You have to seek opportunities to learn. You have to go outside of your comfort zone and challenge yourself. This is where real growth takes place. Stop comparing yourself to others and use your time and resources to focus on yourself.

The reason I put failure in quotation marks is because I believe Napoleon Hill when he said “Failure brings a climax in which one has the privilege of clearing his mind of fear and making a new start in another direction.” Being the best version of yourself is being able to understand and recognise that “failure” is nothing more than a learning opportunity. And the application of such lessons will push you to be better. To be a better version of yourself.

Nobody said it would be easy but all you can do is try. So how about today you start trying to become the best version of you.

As Judy Garland said “always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else.”

Thanks for reading and please comment below with any strategies or tools you use that aid you in being the best version of yourself!

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5 Things I wish I knew before I went to China

5 Things I wish I knew before I went to China

1. That working on weekends was a common practice

My expectations did not match my reality. I did not know that I would be required to work on the weekends and have my days off during the week. This made exploring Shanghai and meeting other foreigners that much harder as people had different schedules. When I was able to go out, some of my friends were not.

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What Do YOU Fear?

What Do YOU Fear?

Have you ever asked yourself what your biggest fears are?

When people ask us what we are afraid of we tend to think about tangible/physical things or things that are very obvious to us. For example some people have a fear of dogs and others have a fear of heights.

But have you ever considered what it is that you are actually afraid of?

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