One of the best books I read this year was called Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg. This book was great for many reasons but what I enjoyed most about the book was the fact that almost all the themes that she touched upon were able to inspire and encourage me.
I’m not sure about you, but I started 2018 with an action plan, a list of goals and the motivation and drive I needed to reach them.
But by mid-year, I along with many others, had lost the drive, the motivation and most importantly focus. Staying motivated and pushing forward is probably one of the hardest things to do in life especially when we experience setbacks.
“You are a product of your environment,” is a commonly used statement.
But do you also believe that you are a product of those who you surround yourself with (as a singular component outside of your wider environment)?
Do you believe that the people that surround you can influence and sometimes dictate your thoughts, mindsets, actions, behaviours and more?
Before you read this, I want you to ask yourself the following questions:
“Is my life/current situation in life what I expected it to be 3 or 5 years ago?”
“Am I struggling to have good relationships with others because they do not meet my expectation of them?”
It is no lie that we all aspire to be great and to be successful.
But a lot of us struggle with getting to the level of success that we dream of because we struggle with decision making, especially in regards to career paths.
When we think of wealth we usually define it in monetary terms. A wealthy person is seen as someone who possesses great material wealth, mainly in assets and cash.
But unbeknown to many research shows that families who have had continuous wealth for over more than 3 generations see it from 4 different perspectives:
‘Knowing is not enough. We must apply. Willing is not enough. We must do.’
― Bruce Lee
I am sure that there is a large majority of people who agree with the above statement. But I am also sure that the proportion of people who successfully put it in to practice is much lower.
When I was a child I wanted to be several things including a corporate lawyer, a script writer/film maker and an entrepreneur.
I was so confident that I could achieve anything and everything and that nothing would hold me back. This confidence was evident in my teenage years as shown in my yearbook where I was described as “determined.”
I thought that my love affair with procrastination would end as soon as I left university but boy was I wrong.
According to Google procrastination is ‘the act of delaying or postponing something,’ but to me procrastination is just another word for being lazy. And for me this is a major problem because it hinders me from being productive when necessary.
Is it me or do you also feel pressure to be successful or achieve a certain amount of things before you reach a particular age? Sometimes I feel like I am running and I really do not know why.
With social media and the constant comparison bubble that a lot of people live in, it seems that more and more people are running to ‘secure the bag.’ There is nothing wrong with having dreams, goals and aspirations but I think that if we are constantly running instead of striding then the following might happen:
- We may miss blessings and/or opportunities
- We may run and stumble in to problems that we did not plan/prepare for
- We may not understand or even miss important lessons because we did not take time to enjoy the journey
I think that to truly be successful and achieve the goals that you have set for yourself, you need to understand that it will take time and it may not always happen as fast as you want it to. Hard-work, planning and consistency are just some of the main ingredients that are needed. These factors take time to build, develop and nurture. So take time.
If you are running make sure that you are not doing it for the benefit of others. As I wrote last week we are all in individual lanes and should avoid comparison at all costs. Just because your neighbour may be running does not mean that you should join them. Be great, but be great at your own standards.
(this is how a lot of people live their lives, running to compete against others when they should be focusing on themselves)
As a person who has so many ideas and wants to achieve so much I thought I could do a lot of things all at once. But after long reflection (including speaking to a range of people) I realised that I did not want to be a ‘jack of all trades and a master of none.’ I want to be able to position myself as an expert in one (or maybe two) particular fields. I know that this will take a lot of time, effort, dedication, consistency and much more. But I am ready for the journey. I am no longer prepared to run because I was in a hurry. I don’t want to run into hurdles when I could stride (being prepared) in to them.
I know that we can all stride, take time and still be great.
As I believe and repeat to myself everyday: preparation (+self-belief) + opportunity = success
So this year are you running or are you striding?