Are you the best version of yourself?

Are you the best version of yourself?

Are you the best version of yourself?

A tough question, I know. Before I could answer it myself, I had to really consider what it meant to me.  So I am going to rephrase the question for you. “Are you allowing yourself to live up to your full potential, both in the personal (e.g. mentally, physically, spiritually and so on) and professional sense (e.g. career, entrepreneurial and so on)?”

If I had answered this question a couple of months ago, it would have been with a big fat no. Being victim to laziness, procrastination and doubt meant that I wasn’t allowing myself to flourish and I’m probably not the only one.

As I pondered on it, I realised that I could be doing much more. I was not going above and beyond in all that I did, in fact I was doing the bare minimum. I was not able to confidently say that I was putting 110% effort in to my personal and professional life. I was too comfortable and that to me, was a problem.

Now of course the idea of “being the best me” will vary considerably amongst each individual, but as you’re reading this today I challenge you to consider what does that mean to you?

There are many ways to be the best version of yourself but I believe in a 3 step cycle.

1. Firstly learn about yourself; identify your skills, passions and interests, your strengths, your weaknesses, what you like and what you don’t like, how you interact well with others, and how you fail to communicate well with others, how you work – the idea is to really just know yourself

How can you be the best version of yourself if you do not fully understand and know yourself well? Once you are able to understand yourself you can gain a better understanding and sense of direction. Identify your skills, your passions and your interests and then try to use this to discover your purpose.

2. Secondly develop an uncanny confidence in yourself and use this to take action

Once you know yourself and you know what direction/path you want to take in life, it will be much easier to believe in yourself and your abilities. I genuinely believe that we can do whatever we set our minds too. All it takes is self-confidence. If you do not have confidence you will struggle to take action.

Take action. Make a plan. Then execute this plan.           

3. Finally keep growing – learn from your mistakes and your “failures,” increase your knowledge capital, grow your network and just keep shinning 🙂 

So you know yourself, you’ve got confidence and you’ve taken action. What next……?

Continuous learning – Upgrading your skills and increasing your knowledge

Every experience is an opportunity to learn. But you have to go beyond this. You have to seek opportunities to learn. You have to go outside of your comfort zone and challenge yourself. This is where real growth takes place. Stop comparing yourself to others and use your time and resources to focus on yourself.

The reason I put failure in quotation marks is because I believe Napoleon Hill when he said “Failure brings a climax in which one has the privilege of clearing his mind of fear and making a new start in another direction.” Being the best version of yourself is being able to understand and recognise that “failure” is nothing more than a learning opportunity. And the application of such lessons will push you to be better. To be a better version of yourself.

Nobody said it would be easy but all you can do is try. So how about today you start trying to become the best version of you.

As Judy Garland said “always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else.”

Thanks for reading and please comment below with any strategies or tools you use that aid you in being the best version of yourself!

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5 Things I wish I knew before I went to China

5 Things I wish I knew before I went to China

1. That working on weekends was a common practice

My expectations did not match my reality. I did not know that I would be required to work on the weekends and have my days off during the week. This made exploring Shanghai and meeting other foreigners that much harder as people had different schedules. When I was able to go out, some of my friends were not.

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Celebrating Black Success

Celebrating Black Success

Black History Month is not only a time to look back and take note of how far we have come, it provides us with an opportunity to celebrate the work and success of black people within the present time.

As BHM is coming to an end I wanted to take the time to acknowledge the work of some of the entrepreneurial, creative, hardworking and influential black young professionals that I find inspiring.

Note: All are under 25! 

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Why is saving so hard?

Why is saving so hard?

From a young age I became very familiar with the concept of ‘good financial management.’ My parents had taught me the importance of controlled spending and diligent saving along with many other important financial principles.

But I know that this was not the case for many others. In fact during university I encountered a lot of people that consistently told me that ‘saving was just too difficult,’ and I began to realise that many people did not really understand how to properly plan and manage their finances.

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You don’t need fair-weather friends…

You don’t need fair-weather friends…

“Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.” Proverbs 13:20 (MSG)

Who do you walk with?

There are many verses in the Bible centred on the topic of friendship and making sure that we have the right type of people around us.

What type of friends do you have around you?

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What Do YOU Fear?

What Do YOU Fear?

Have you ever asked yourself what your biggest fears are?

When people ask us what we are afraid of we tend to think about tangible/physical things or things that are very obvious to us. For example some people have a fear of dogs and others have a fear of heights.

But have you ever considered what it is that you are actually afraid of?

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10 Things I have learnt since being in China 

10 Things I have learnt since being in China 

As some of you may or may not know I’ve been living in Shanghai, China since July 2017.

I decided to move to China mainly because I wanted a new challenge. I wanted to do something different, outside of my comfort zone that would help me with my personal development and growth journey. I also wanted to experience a different culture first hand. Most importantly I knew that it would provide me with some great life lessons.

So what have I learnt since being in China?

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