The hard decision

The hard decision

It is no lie that we all aspire to be great and to be successful.

But a lot of us struggle with getting to the level of success that we dream of because we struggle with decision making, especially in regards to career paths.

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How wealthy are you?

How wealthy are you?

When we think of wealth we usually define it in monetary terms. A wealthy person is seen as someone who possesses great material wealth, mainly in assets and cash.

But unbeknown to many research shows that families who have had continuous wealth for over more than 3 generations see it from 4 different perspectives:

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Do you still believe in your dreams?

Do you still believe in your dreams?

When I was a child I wanted to be several things including a corporate lawyer, a script writer/film maker and an entrepreneur.

I was so confident that I could achieve anything and everything and that nothing would hold me back. This confidence was evident in my teenage years as shown in my yearbook where I was described as “determined.”

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The bane of our lives; procrastination

The bane of our lives; procrastination

I thought that my love affair with procrastination would end as soon as I left university but boy was I wrong.

According to Google procrastination is ‘the act of delaying or postponing something,’ but to me procrastination is just another word for being lazy. And for me this is a major problem because it hinders me from being productive when necessary.

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Why are you running?

Why are you running?

Is it me or do you also feel pressure to be successful or achieve a certain amount of things before you reach a particular age? Sometimes I feel like I am running and I really do not know why.

With social media and the constant comparison bubble that a lot of people live in, it seems that more and more people are running to ‘secure the bag.’ There is nothing wrong with having dreams, goals and aspirations but I think that if we are constantly running instead of striding then the following might happen:

  • We may miss blessings and/or opportunities
  • We may run and stumble in to problems that we did not plan/prepare for
  • We may not understand or even miss important lessons because we did not take time to enjoy the journey

I think that to truly be successful and achieve the goals that you have set for yourself, you need to understand that it will take time and it may not always happen as fast as you want it to. Hard-work, planning and consistency are just some of the main ingredients that are needed. These factors take time to build, develop and nurture. So take time.

If you are running make sure that you are not doing it for the benefit of others. As I wrote last week we are all in individual lanes and should avoid comparison at all costs. Just because your neighbour may be running does not mean that you should join them. Be great, but be great at your own standards.

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(this is how a lot of people live their lives, running to compete against others when they should be focusing on themselves)

As a person who has so many ideas and wants to achieve so much I thought I could do a lot of things all at once. But after long reflection (including speaking to a range of people) I realised that I did not want to be a ‘jack of all trades and a master of none.’ I want to be able to position myself as an expert in one (or maybe two) particular fields. I know that this will take a lot of time, effort, dedication, consistency and much more. But I am ready for the journey. I am no longer prepared to run because I was in a hurry. I don’t want to run into hurdles when I could stride (being prepared) in to them.

I know that we can all stride, take time and still be great.

As I believe and repeat to myself everyday: preparation (+self-belief) + opportunity = success

So this year are you running or are you striding?

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Comparison or Contentment?

Comparison or Contentment?

Theodore Roosevelt once said that ‘comparison is the thief of joy’ and I really think he hit the nail on the head with this one.

Comparison, according to our dear friend google, is described as ‘a consideration or estimate of the similarities or dissimilarities between two things or people.’ Essentially meaning to compare how similar or how different you are to others.

One of the problems with the information and social media age that we currently live in is that, it is extremely difficult to avoid comparison. Even if we don’t want to know what others are up to we will somehow find out. It’s always in our face.

So we get stuck in this trap of comparing ourselves to others especially when we see them doing things that we wanted to do or could have done but fear and/or a lack of confidence stopped us.

Over-indulgence in comparison can lead us to create imaginary benchmarks in our heads where we measure our own successes and shortcomings against those around us and even worse those in popular culture. Before you know it you are competing with people you don’t even know!

But do you know how crazy it is to compare yourself to people who most likely had a different starting point to you?

See once you begin comparing yourself to others and letting those thoughts manifest in your mind and heart, you begin to feel frustrated and discontent with life causing yourself unnecessary torment. Comparison robs us of precious time. The same time and energy that you could have invested in yourself and your goals.

Although comparison can be positive especially if it brings on a desire to achieve and further develop yourself. Just as a business analyses the external environment to spot opportunities in the market that aid in development and innovation, you may decide to do the same with your own external environment.

So how do we avoid ‘negative’ comparison? Below are my top 5 tips

  1. Focus on yourself – not as simple as it sounds, I know. But it is so important to focus on your own journey and remember that you are running in your own lane and not competing against others
  2. Remind yourself of your achievements and why you are remarkable (because we all are!). Whether you prefer to speak positive affirmations out loud or stick post-it notes around your bedroom, you have to be your own biggest cheerleader!
  3. Develop an attitude of gratitude. Try a gratitude jar – where you write things you are grateful/thankful for on a small piece of paper and store it away in this jar (on a daily basis)
  4. Find inspiration through comparison e.g. if she/he can do it, then so can I!
  5. Learn to be content with your yourself, your progress, your journey and the unknown

Remember that you are your own worst enemy and the only thing stopping you from being the best version of yourself is yourself.

So will you let comparison steal your joy, your strengths and your success or will you reclaim what’s yours?

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The Power of Networking

The Power of Networking

For me 2017 was a year of learning and growing and one of the many things that I learnt is how powerful networking can be.

Networking is described as the process of “interacting with others to exchange information and develop professional or social contacts.”

Sounds simple doesn’t it? But the truth is that many of us do not know how to network. In my opinion, to effectively network, one needs to have a purpose in mind. Ask yourself the following questions:

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Can you step outside of your comfort zone?

Can you step outside of your comfort zone?

What is a comfort zone?

“A behavioural and/or psychological state where activities and behaviours fit a routine and pattern that minimises stress and risk.”

Within this state people generally feel at ease and in control of their environment, it is essentially a place of security and comfortability.

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